THOSE PARENTS SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOU WHAT THE SWIM PARTY ENTAILED AND ASKED YOUR PERMISSION BEFORE INVITING MIKE TO REMOVE HIS CLOTHES.ĭon't prevent Mike from seeing his friend, but have the boy come to your house instead of the other way around. What do you think?ĭEAR ALL WET ACCUSING THE FATHER OF CHILD ABUSE WAS AN OVERREACTION, BUT WE AGREE THAT IT IS COMPLETELY INAPPROPRIATE FOR AN ADULT MALE TO ENCOURAGE 13-YEAR-OLD BOYS TO SWIM NAKED WITH HIM. Now we are having second thoughts about our decision. I spoke with the other boys' parents, and they don't see a problem.
Mike is furious at us for keeping him away from his new best friend. We have refused to allow Mike to have any contact with the boy or his family. Legal or not, we don't feel good about it. We then talked to the police about it, but they say if there is no sexual contact between the adult and the boys, no law has been broken. She says her husband and son swim nude all the time and there's nothing indecent about it. Later, I called the mother, and we had it out on the phone. When I found out what went on, I hit the roof. The mother apparently went out shopping, and the father convinced the boys to join him in the pool, naked. It seems the boys had been skinny-dipping. However, when my husband picked Mike up later, he noticed his bathing suit was completely dry, although his hair was wet. I talked to the mother, who seemed nice, and she promised that the party would be well-supervised. WE RECENTLY MOVED TO THIS AREA AND WERE PLEASED THAT MIKE HAD MADE NEW FRIENDS. All rights Reserved.DEAR ANNIE A FEW WEEKS AGO, OUR 13-YEAR-OLD SON, "MIKE," WAS INVITED TO A BIRTHDAY SWIM PARTY AT THE HOME OF A CLASSMATE. Provided by ProQuest Information and Learning. Write Dear Abby at or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. I wish you all a very happy, healthy and prosperous 2008! But none of this can happen until she decides to reach out.ĬONFIDENTIAL TO MY READERS: If you are partying tonight to celebrate the arrival of the new year, please don’t drink and drive. In that way she will meet new friends and perhaps find a new relationship.
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Your mother needs to look beyond herself, volunteer some of her free time to the community, and allow herself less time to wallow in her discontent. However, this is a step that you cannot make for her. Most depression is treatable if the person is willing to discuss the problem with a mental health professional. It is possible that losing your father (through death or divorce) has caused your mother to withdraw and go into a depression. How can my mother make new friends or start a new relationship? How can she figure out what she likes and be a happier person?ĭEAR WANTS TO HELP MOM: You are a loving and caring daughter, but you can’t “make her happy.” Only she can do that. I’m in college now, but whenever I’m home I always try to spend lots of time with her and make her happy. I may be biased, but I think Mom is an amazing person. She seems to have forgotten what makes her happy and who she is. She doesn’t have any really close friends there are two women she goes out with occasionally, but all she does is complain about them. If he’s not, then don’t go over.ĭEAR ABBY: My mother has been a single parent for the past seven years.
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It’s possible that you have been their neighbor so long that the young man considers you part of the family.īecause he has matured sufficiently that his nudity now makes you uncomfortable, you should hang curtains on your windows that face the Smiths’ kitchen and before dropping over there, call to ask whether he’s presentable. I know it’s common for little boys to run around without clothes on sometimes, but, Abby, he’s not a little boy anymore.ĭEAR CLOTHES-MINDED: Standards regarding nudity vary from family to family, and obviously the Smiths are casual and open-minded on the subject. He’s been nude in my presence dozens of times. This boy has no compunctions about being seen by his father, mother, sister or next-door neighbor. I have never seen any of the other family members naked.
When the bathroom becomes available, he goes in for a shower. There is absolutely no evidence of arousal of any kind. Then he stands at the counter, watching the morning sports shows while eating his breakfast in the nude. He walks into the kitchen and fixes a bowl of cereal. My question: Is it normal for a 16-year-old boy to walk around the house naked, in plain view of family members? No one seems to notice or care. I have known the Smiths’ children their whole lives. When problems have arisen, they have helped me out, and I have done the same for them. DEAR ABBY: I have lived next door to the “Smiths” for 18 years.